Ready to give up on dating
Dear Christina, Before I give you the pep talk you need, let me first acknowledge the painful truths that you’ve eloquently outlined above. Having four kids under the age of 9 is a huge handicap.
I’d try to spin it in a slightly more positive way, but I can’t.
I was married for ten years, have four beautiful boys under 9 and have a very fulfilling and successful career.
My life is happy, but I really would love to share it with someone…
I feel like I'm going to be alone forever, I see everyone Around me getting bf's and gf's no problem, but I can't even get a woman to go one a single with me.
I'm just about ready to stop playing the games that women want me to play and just turn to p*rn.
but dating when you have FOUR kids is like the Mt Everest of the dating world!
I guess I must be in reasonable shape because NOBODY can guess I’ve even had four kids, or that I’m even 34 (I get asked out by guys in their early 20s- I feel like I should read them a story and tuck them into bed… we usually go on a few dates, everything is going wonderful… I’m not talking about church bells, but just to an actual relationship. I am sick of being treated like a piece of ass, and treated like I must be desperate because I have kids.
There’s no way that I — or most men who don’t have their shit together — would willingly enter into a relationship with a woman who has so many other responsibilities, the way all moms do.
At risk of making myself look bad, I once dated a single mom of a two-year-old.
I am seriously at the point of giving up on the whole dating thing…
Is it too much of an ask that I could actually meet someone who can see me as a woman, and not just as mother or worse, a bit of bedroom fun? I know Everest is high, but SOME people get up the damn thing, don’t they?